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Symptoms© of Codependency

These patterns and characteristics are offered as a tool to aid in self-evaluation. They may be particularly helpful to newcomers.

Denial Patterns:

  • Inability to know what "normal" is.
  • Difficulty having fun.
  • Difficulty in following a project through.
  • Judging self, others without mercy.
  • Low self esteem, often projected onto others. (eg: Why don't they get their act together!)
  • Difficulty in developing or sustaining meaningful relationships.
  • Belief that others cause or are responsible for the codependent's emotions.
  • Overreacting to change. (or intense fear of / inability to deal with change.)
  • Inability to see alternatives to situations, thus responding very impulsively.
  • Constantly seeking approval and affirmation, yet having compromised sense of self.
  • Feelings of being different.
  • Confusion and sense of inadequacy.
  • Lack of self confidence in making decisions, no sense of power in making choices.
  • Feeling of fear, insecurity, inadequacy, guilt, hurt, and shame which are denied.
  • Isolation and fear of people, resentment of authority figures.
  • Fear of anger or bottling anger up till it explodes.
  • Hypersensitivity to criticism.
  • Being addicted to excitement / drama. (Chaos making.)
  • Dependency upon others and fear of abandonment.
  • Avoidance of relationships to guard against abandonment fears.
  • Confusion between love and pity.
  • Tendency to look for "victims" to help.
  • Rigidity and need to control.
  • Lies when it would be just as easy to tell the truth.

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